Friday, October 17, 2008

Alone at last

As much as I love my children, I also love my quiet time alone. My dad picked Christian up a bit ago. He is spending the night there. Daniel is out and about outside with his friends. It is almost to quiet. I think I might order myself a pizza and get an on demand movie. Daniel will probably end up staying at his friend's house. I at times find myself missing my kids when they are gone. I spend so much time missing them that by the time I figure out what to do with my time they are back home.

I had an incident last night where one of my sons friends just kind of said he was moving ou of his house and wanted to move in to mine. Before I really had a chance to respond he was bringing over his clothes and computer. He is a wonderful kid but I just can not take on another child. I am not the most assertive person and had no idea what to do or say. I told him he could spend the night and cool off from whatever transpired at home but he would have to go back home or find somewhere else. That was a hard one for me. I did not get much sleep lastnight because I was trying to think of the right thing to say.

I am off to read the newspaper and enjoy my quiet time.


Amie said...

Hi Marie! Found your blog. It is sooo good. Mazie is gorgeous. It has been so long. She has really grown up! Just wanted to say that I enjoy your blog. I really like the comment about you spend so much time missing them they are back before you got anything done. Totally can relate to that. I actually started laughing at that one. One of those encouraging moments that it happens to someone else. I'll see you next week! Amie

Trish @ Another Piece of the Puzzle said...

I know how you feel about missing them when they are gone - my husband took my son to his parents' house last weekend and it was hard for me to really relax until too late!

I hope you have an enjoyable time, and I think what you said to your son's friend was just right - clear and to the point. Just stick to your guns!

Anonymous said...

You handled the situation last night very well. Enjoy your alone time!

Anonymous said...

Sounds like you said the exact right thing. What a compliment to the home you have created. Children know love and safety when they surrounded by it.

Enjoy your alone time. I'm learning that it is essential for our well being. I think it is good for our kids to get out and interact with others. I use to want to just keep my girls all home, I knew they were safe and I didn't have to worry about missing them so much. I know now how crazy that was because they need to grow and I need, crave those precious moments alone.

Have a good night.

m said...

I can totally relate to the "missing" part, but it's so nice to have some time to yourself.

I think you handled the situation great. I'm not very assertive either.